Āyurvedic Wellness Consultations &
Compassionate Self Care Guidance
Personalized Care & Community Care
In person in the Central North Carolina Triangle and online through the ether.
One-on-One Consultations
Personalized, holistic, non-medical support for you and your people in your home, care facility, or online.
In-Person
Gatherings & Workshops
Join a supportive, death positive workshop, grief circle, death chat, or other gathering in North Carolina and beyond.
Live Online
Gatherings & Workshops
Self-Paced, Online Offerings & Guides
Self Care For The Benefit Of All Beings
As a steward of community wellness for living and dying, I want to help you live and die in the way that you want. I want to support you, as you support your own people through their process of dying well and all that follows. Death care is community care, and it is also life care.
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20 Minute Inquiry Call
Holistic Non-Medical Support
- Non-medical support through the various phases of preparing for death, the process of dying, and after-death support. This includes folks of any age, of any state of health or illness, and in any phase of living and dying.
- Support for people who are dying, and for the circle of support surrounding someone who is dying.
- Family and community centered care that is client led. I am on the outer rings of your care team, and you as the client are always at the center, with the people you choose on the inner rings.
- Space to consider options, and the opportunity to make informed decisions about your unique situation. I am a neutral advocate, helping you to get your needs met according to your wishes, and support whatever decisions you make.
- Proactive guidance and logistical support. Based on my experience, I may anticipate needs before they arise, and will discuss these with you so that we can make a plan together.
- Support that is intuitive, heart-centered, and secular in nature. I honor your cultural practices and customs, your religious beliefs or lack of religious beliefs, and do not promote any specific belief system or religious institution.
Presence & Accompaniment
Holding Space For Complexity
As a human living a queer lifestyle within a society that is designed for the heteronormative nuclear family, I understand the challenges of navigating bureaucratic systems that do not gracefully offer space for anything outside of their limiting check-boxes. It is especially important for folks who are not married, whose marriages or partnerships are not legally recognized, trans and gender non-conforming folks, and folks who do not have children, to have their “affairs in order” so that they can be cared for honorably in the case of illness and/or death. This applies to anyone who does not want their “legal next of kin” to make decisions for them.
I am familiar with estrangement and exile within family, and I understand that choosing the people you want to care for you and make decisions on your behalf is not always easy or obvious. I also understand that estrangement between adult children can complicate decision making for parents and grandparents.
Living and dying within our modern systems can be complex for anyone regardless of lifestyle or family dynamics. Talking about it in advance, and considering options within a supportive container of care can help smooth out some of these complexities and offer creative solutions to an otherwise daunting situation.
Intersections Of Secular, Spiritual, & Religious Practices
I work with folks form any religious background or none, and am able to hold space for whatever your belief systems and personal practices are. I am honored to learn as much as you want to share about your culture and ways of being in the world, and am glad to address any questions or concerns you might have as it relates to our work together.
I grew up in a jewish family, and though I do not consider judaism to be my religion, it is part of my being and culture. And in coming more fully into my role as a death doula, I have found much comfort, inspiration, and supportive wisdom within some of the jewish customs and rituals around life cycles, death, grief, and celebration. I also find comfort inspiration, and supportive wisdom in some of the buddhist teachings, as well as many other philosophical systems.
In my experience, when folks are nearing that final breath, it is not uncommon to discover unexpected questions, fears, and curiosities. Sometimes they center around the person's belief systems and practices in life, and sometimes they don't. Sometimes they are pragmatic and practical, and sometimes they are spiritual or philosophical. Often it is many things intersecting within the mind and heart. Though these are questions only you can answer for yourself, I will humbly listen, and point you you back to the wisdom that resides within.
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